A few weeks ago, Mackenzie and I decided to offer a chance to win a free copy of Russell Moore’s book, Adopted For Life, which has had an amazing impact on us. (By the way, the audio version of this book is now available from Christian Audio. And there's even a Kindle edition, too, if you've converted to e-books like my dad.)
Well, today’s the day we get to announce the winner. Congratulations to Karene Hill, a member at the Mars Hill Ballard campus. And thanks to all who participated in this giveaway.
If you come across any other resources you think would be helpful, please send them our way.
Wednesday, July 07, 2010
Ten Things I Like About Costco...
- COMBO PIZZA - If I ever come home from Costco without their version of a supreme pizza, Cliff will disown me. :) It is huge, $10, has lots of delicious veggies, and warms up beautifully for lunches and leftovers. Hard to beat.
- MEAT - Their chicken breasts, flank steak, organic ground beef, and rotisserie chickens are all so delicious. I also appreciate that they're prepackaged in meal size portions, so I don't have to come home from the store and separate it into one pound packages. Love that!
- BEDDING - We bought our favorite sheets ever at Costco. They are flannel and so deliciously soft that we use them even in the summer! Recently we bought a new mattress from Costco and we couldn't be happier.
- BAKERY - The croissants, apple turnovers, and ciabatta bread are the best around.
- PRODUCE - I appreciate the huge variety of produce Costco offers, but the prices are what really catch my eye.
- CAR WASH - I've never been much for paying to have my car washed, but after running one of our cars through the $8 wash, I'm sold. It did an awesome job and was very quick!
- TERIYAKI SAUCE - The Soy Vey teriyaki sauce is incredible. It will transform any piece of meat into something truly amazing.
- MOCHA FREEZE - Love, love, love it! Worth every penny of the $1.59. Such a nice pick me up on a warm afternoon...like today!
- BOXES - I like that they pack my items into boxes and not into bags, which makes loading and unloading the car much quicker. Unique too - maybe that's why I like it.
- VARIETY - Anywhere I can buy dog food, my mattress, flank steak, rugs, books, organic quinoa, and hopefully one day diapers is my kind of place!
I have to admit, it seems a bit odd that a two person household would have a Costco membership since they sell things in such bulk, but we love it!
What are your favorite Costco finds?
Sunday, June 20, 2010
Happy Father's Day!
We are blessed to have dads who love and encourage us and have done that our entire lives. They are both men who we respect, enjoy spending time with, and are excited to see as grandfathers. We know they will love our children deeply, because they have taken such good care of us.
We thank God that He blessed us with these men as our dads. Happy Father's Day! We love you both so very much.
We thank God that He blessed us with these men as our dads. Happy Father's Day! We love you both so very much.
Wednesday, June 16, 2010
Book Giveaway: "Adopted For Life"
As Mackenzie and I shared, Russell Moore's book, Adopted For Life has been a tremendous resource for us as we've started pursuing adoption. So much so that we wanted to give you all an opportunity to win a free copy.
To enter to win:
To enter to win:
- Visit the Antioch Adoptions website.
- Find the Scripture reference on their homepage. (While you're there, you can also check out some of the amazing stories from this ministry and learn how you can help support them.)
- Email that Scripture reference to me at cliffe@marshillchurch.org and include "Book Giveaway" in the subject. One entry per person.
Saturday, June 12, 2010
Time Flies
Six years ago today, all the preparations came to an end and Cliff and I were married in Naperville, Illinois, with treasured family and friends in attendance. It was a wonderful day, a point of great celebration in our lives.These six years that have followed have been full of many highlights, as well as difficult moments that God used and continues to use to teach us to rely on Him. I am so thankful that God brought us together years ago and my prayer is that we can enjoy many decades of marriage to come.
Last night we had the opportunity to celebrate together. Cliff planned a wonderful evening. We started by heading to dinner at Spring Hill in West Seattle. The restaurant opened a few years years ago to great acclaim, has been noted in many national culinary magazines, and has been on my list to try for awhile. It certainly lived up to its reputation.
As we looked over the menus, our server brought us complimentary glasses of sparkling wine to help us celebrate. Before our entrees arrived, we enjoyed homemade bread and a crab cake that melted in our mouths. For dinner, Cliff ordered the halibut which he described as the best piece of fish he's eaten-not even a hint of "fishiness". I had a hangar steak smothered in caramelized onions and served with homemade french fries. Delicious and particularly enjoyable as all of the food is homemade and/or local.
We absolutely loved the delicious food, but the unassuming and unpretentious atmosphere really made us feel at home. We could not have enjoyed our dinner more.
We then headed out to the Washington Dance Club for a Tango lesson. We arrived to a somewhat empty ballroom, where we signed in and got ready for our lesson. There were about ten other people there for the hour long class. The instructor did a good job of walking us through each step, but doing so with patience and a sense of humor. Even though I have dance experience, I don't know a thing about ballroom dancing and was certainly out of my element. We did our best to keep it lighthearted and had a great time together.
After the lesson, many other people began showing up for the social dance that followed. There were some very skilled and serious dancers that arrived. Cliff and I took one Tango tour of the dance floor and then left the rest of the evening to the professionals. We had a great time laughing and learning together, but that will likely be a once in a lifetime experience for us!
Our evening echoed what the last six years have been like:
- full of new experiences
- moments of uncertainty and challenge
- me learning to look to Cliff as the leader
- accidentally stepping on each others' toes, then asking for forgiveness
- laughing together
I look forward to many more! Happy 6th Anniversary, Cliff! I love you.
Sunday, June 06, 2010
Where are we in the adoption process?
We get this question a lot. The truth - the very beginning. I guess for me it will always feel like the beginning until that sweet baby is placed in our arms.
A couple of weeks ago, we took an important step in the process having our pre-screening interview at Antioch Adoptions. We met with Michele, the Executive Director, and answered a number of questions ranging from why we wanted to adopt, to our family backgrounds, to our marriage, and certainly much more. We expected to share all of this information, but I appreciated how conversational and practical it was. Michele shared her experiences as an adoptive mom with us and honestly and openly answered our questions. We also met with a pastor at Antioch Bible Church for a pastoral interview to confirm that we are in fact Christians, as that is one of the criteria of them placing a child into our family. We feel very blessed to have such skilled, compassionate, and God-fearing people surrounding us in this process.
Our next steps are to attend a number of trainings, which we hope to do this summer and fall. Specifically:
"Wait for the LORD; be strong, and let your heart take courage; wait for the LORD!"
Psalm 27:14
A couple of weeks ago, we took an important step in the process having our pre-screening interview at Antioch Adoptions. We met with Michele, the Executive Director, and answered a number of questions ranging from why we wanted to adopt, to our family backgrounds, to our marriage, and certainly much more. We expected to share all of this information, but I appreciated how conversational and practical it was. Michele shared her experiences as an adoptive mom with us and honestly and openly answered our questions. We also met with a pastor at Antioch Bible Church for a pastoral interview to confirm that we are in fact Christians, as that is one of the criteria of them placing a child into our family. We feel very blessed to have such skilled, compassionate, and God-fearing people surrounding us in this process.
Our next steps are to attend a number of trainings, which we hope to do this summer and fall. Specifically:
- Equip 101, which is Antioch Adoptions' pre-PRIDE training for families planning to adopt.
- PRIDE training through the state.
- Equip 201, which is Antioch Adoptions' post-PRIDE training.
I appreciated Michele's honesty in laying out our timeline, which could range from 1-3 years. Certainly according to God's perfect plan, things could go much more quickly, but could also go more slowly. Our prayer is that we wait humbly and patiently for God's timing and not be overcome by our desire to be parents.
We are so excited about how God will use this amazing ministry to impact our family and others. We would ask that you pray with us for the staff of Antioch Adoptions, financial provision for this ministry, and for us as we await the arrival of our children."Wait for the LORD; be strong, and let your heart take courage; wait for the LORD!"
Psalm 27:14
Tuesday, June 01, 2010
Goodreads: Social Media For Readers
I enjoy Facebook and Twitter as much as the next social media fanatic, but in many ways my favorite social media site is Goodreads. This is a great site for bookworms like myself, who enjoy keeping track of what they read, reading and sharing reviews and ratings, seeing what friends are reading, and discovering new books.
There are many other features that I haven't even explored yet, but one of my favorite organizational options is the customizable bookshelves. The site allows you to create different bookshelves to arrange your books anyway you like. I try to keep mine simple: currently reading, to-read, and read. My "to-read" list is a bit daunting, but it's good to know there's never a shortage of books to read and things to learn--keeps me humble.
Teresa, my best "Goodreads friend" (and a great friend in real life, too), pointed out recently that my "read" list has been heavily weighted with theological books. That's not a bad thing, of course, but she encouraged me to throw in a piece of fiction every now and then, which I definitely plan to do after finishing the Re:Train program next month.
There are many other features that I haven't even explored yet, but one of my favorite organizational options is the customizable bookshelves. The site allows you to create different bookshelves to arrange your books anyway you like. I try to keep mine simple: currently reading, to-read, and read. My "to-read" list is a bit daunting, but it's good to know there's never a shortage of books to read and things to learn--keeps me humble.
Teresa, my best "Goodreads friend" (and a great friend in real life, too), pointed out recently that my "read" list has been heavily weighted with theological books. That's not a bad thing, of course, but she encouraged me to throw in a piece of fiction every now and then, which I definitely plan to do after finishing the Re:Train program next month.
If you haven't already, I'd encourage you to join Goodreads, add your books, and add me as a friend, so I can keep up with what you're reading.
Friday, May 28, 2010
Riding the Re:Train
Last August, Mars Hill Church, our home church for the past four years and where I've been working for the past two years, started a Masters of Missional Leadership program called Re:Train. The program is designed to provide a seminary experience with a heavy emphasis on practical application. Pastors and professors from all over the country, including Dr. Bruce Ware, Dr. Gregg Allison, and Dr. John Piper have traveled to Seattle for one weekend out of the month to teach what's typically weeks worth of material in two intense days.
I was blessed to be accepted into the program this year as one of the seventy students in the inaugural class. It's been a challenging, but enjoyable experience. Along the way I've had the opportunity to learn from some amazingly wise, Christian men, read many challenging and helpful books, and think through what it looks like to put all of this into practice.
I'm currently working on our final assignment: a thirty-five to fifty page Master's Thesis, which will serve as a synthesis of what I've learned this past year, as well as a vision and plan for my life in ministry this coming year.
Following Mackenzie's example (part 1, part 2), I thought I'd share some of the books that have had the greatest impact on me this past year.
God's Big Picture by Vaughan Roberts
In many ways this is a more accessible version of Graeme Goldsworthy's Gospel and Kingdom. They both explain how the sixty-six books of the Bible fit together to form one, unified story--God's story of creation, the fall, redemption, and consummation.
Respectable Sins: Confronting the Sins We Tolerate by Jerry Bridges
Romans 3:23 says that "all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God," but many Christians act as if their sin isn't grievous to God just because it might not be as "obvious" or damaging to those around them. This book does an excellent job of dispelling that myth and aims at helping people see just how desperately we all need God's grace.
Father, Son, and Holy Spirit: Relationships, Roles, and Relevance by Bruce Ware
The Trinity and Jesus' humanity/divinity are two of the more challenging doctrines of the Christian faith. How can one God exist in three persons? How can Jesus be fully man and fully God? This book is extremely helpful in trying to understand these important truths.
Seeing and Savoring Jesus Christ by John Piper
Piper is an amazing writer; his writing is both poetic and easy to understand. This particular book does a great job explaining why Jesus is worthy of our worship.
The Assembly of "The Way" by Gregg Allison
This book hasn't actually been released yet, but we were fortunate to get a sneak preview. I'm sure glad we did. It was an amazingly thorough explanation of all that constitutes a church--doctrine, discipline, government, sacraments, etc.
Leading on Empty by Wayne Cordeiro
I read this around the time that Urban Meyer took a leave of absence from the University of Florida football program because of some health concerns. I kept thinking, "Man, he needs to read this book." And so do all leaders who push themselves beyond their limits without seeking God for renewal and strength.
Preaching the Whole Bible as Christian Scripture by Graeme Goldsworthy
In this book Goldsworthy builds upon his premise from Gospel Kingdom that Scripture is one overarching narrative and explains how this should impact the way a preacher preaches.
Lectures to My Students by Charles Spurgeon
I hadn't read much Spurgeon before this book, and my expectation was that it would be a thick theological read. But I was surprised to find that this book (a collection of lectures) was extremely personal and pastoral in nature.
Brothers, We Are Not Professionals by John Piper
Like Spurgeon's book, this was a helpful and practical look at what it means to be a pastor. Piper covers a variety of topics, including how to prepare a sermon and how to grow and mature as a pastor.
The Trellis and the Vine: The Ministry Mind-Shift that Changes Everything by Colin Marshall and Tony Payne
From what I can tell on the blogosphere, this is going to be an important book for everyone in vocational ministry. The premise is simple, but the application is essential: ministry is about seeing people grow in their relationship with Christ; putting in an inordinate amount of emphasis on systems and programs can detract from this purpose.
The Top Ten Mistakes Leaders Make by Hans Finzel
I think this book is a helpful companion to the above book. Finzel not only explains what these mistakes are (putting paperwork before peoplework, dictatorship in decision making, success without successors, etc.), he also provides practical solutions for correcting these mistakes.
Made to Stick: Why Some Ideas Survive and Others Die by Chip Heath and Dan Heath
I'm curious to know how many good ideas are out there floating around that never gain any traction, and as the Heath brothers would say, stick. This is another one of those simple, but essential books. It explores how to create and cast vision in a way that causes others to jump (and stay) on board.
I was blessed to be accepted into the program this year as one of the seventy students in the inaugural class. It's been a challenging, but enjoyable experience. Along the way I've had the opportunity to learn from some amazingly wise, Christian men, read many challenging and helpful books, and think through what it looks like to put all of this into practice.
I'm currently working on our final assignment: a thirty-five to fifty page Master's Thesis, which will serve as a synthesis of what I've learned this past year, as well as a vision and plan for my life in ministry this coming year.
Following Mackenzie's example (part 1, part 2), I thought I'd share some of the books that have had the greatest impact on me this past year.
God's Big Picture by Vaughan Roberts
In many ways this is a more accessible version of Graeme Goldsworthy's Gospel and Kingdom. They both explain how the sixty-six books of the Bible fit together to form one, unified story--God's story of creation, the fall, redemption, and consummation.
Respectable Sins: Confronting the Sins We Tolerate by Jerry Bridges
Romans 3:23 says that "all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God," but many Christians act as if their sin isn't grievous to God just because it might not be as "obvious" or damaging to those around them. This book does an excellent job of dispelling that myth and aims at helping people see just how desperately we all need God's grace.
Father, Son, and Holy Spirit: Relationships, Roles, and Relevance by Bruce Ware
The Trinity and Jesus' humanity/divinity are two of the more challenging doctrines of the Christian faith. How can one God exist in three persons? How can Jesus be fully man and fully God? This book is extremely helpful in trying to understand these important truths.
Seeing and Savoring Jesus Christ by John Piper
Piper is an amazing writer; his writing is both poetic and easy to understand. This particular book does a great job explaining why Jesus is worthy of our worship.
The Assembly of "The Way" by Gregg Allison
This book hasn't actually been released yet, but we were fortunate to get a sneak preview. I'm sure glad we did. It was an amazingly thorough explanation of all that constitutes a church--doctrine, discipline, government, sacraments, etc.
Leading on Empty by Wayne Cordeiro
I read this around the time that Urban Meyer took a leave of absence from the University of Florida football program because of some health concerns. I kept thinking, "Man, he needs to read this book." And so do all leaders who push themselves beyond their limits without seeking God for renewal and strength.
Preaching the Whole Bible as Christian Scripture by Graeme Goldsworthy
In this book Goldsworthy builds upon his premise from Gospel Kingdom that Scripture is one overarching narrative and explains how this should impact the way a preacher preaches.
Lectures to My Students by Charles Spurgeon
I hadn't read much Spurgeon before this book, and my expectation was that it would be a thick theological read. But I was surprised to find that this book (a collection of lectures) was extremely personal and pastoral in nature.
Brothers, We Are Not Professionals by John Piper
Like Spurgeon's book, this was a helpful and practical look at what it means to be a pastor. Piper covers a variety of topics, including how to prepare a sermon and how to grow and mature as a pastor.
The Trellis and the Vine: The Ministry Mind-Shift that Changes Everything by Colin Marshall and Tony Payne
From what I can tell on the blogosphere, this is going to be an important book for everyone in vocational ministry. The premise is simple, but the application is essential: ministry is about seeing people grow in their relationship with Christ; putting in an inordinate amount of emphasis on systems and programs can detract from this purpose.
The Top Ten Mistakes Leaders Make by Hans Finzel
I think this book is a helpful companion to the above book. Finzel not only explains what these mistakes are (putting paperwork before peoplework, dictatorship in decision making, success without successors, etc.), he also provides practical solutions for correcting these mistakes.
Made to Stick: Why Some Ideas Survive and Others Die by Chip Heath and Dan Heath
I'm curious to know how many good ideas are out there floating around that never gain any traction, and as the Heath brothers would say, stick. This is another one of those simple, but essential books. It explores how to create and cast vision in a way that causes others to jump (and stay) on board.
Thursday, May 27, 2010
In My Google Reader...
A few years ago, I enjoyed clicking through my favorite blogs every couple of days and enjoying the wit of a particular writer. That was until Cliff observed me doing this daily clicking and immediately set me up with a Google Reader account. I love how efficient my husband is!
Since the beginning of my Google Reader, I now have many more blogs that I keep up with and learn from. I always love finding a new recipe, discovering a new way of looking at life, or laughing at a picture posted.
These are some of my favorites:
The Pioneer Woman - Ree Drummond is hilarious! If you've never read about the life and hysterics of The Pioneer Woman, you must. From cooking to homeschooling to decorating to photography, she makes me smile.
Passionate Homemaking - I always appreciate Lindsay's ideas about how to better care for my home and family.
Practical Theology for Women - This blog is excellent! Wendy applies the Truths of Scripture to every day life.
Molly Piper - This blog is written by the daughter-in-law of Dr. John Piper. She writes candidly about her life as a wife and mother and the challenges that she has faced in losing a child. Her faith, strength, and humor are very encouraging to me.
I also read many blogs that my friends write, which I enjoy immensely. As I read them, I am always thankful that I get to benefit from their wisdom, humor, and experience in real life and not only in cyberspace!
What blogs do you enjoy?
Since the beginning of my Google Reader, I now have many more blogs that I keep up with and learn from. I always love finding a new recipe, discovering a new way of looking at life, or laughing at a picture posted.
These are some of my favorites:
The Pioneer Woman - Ree Drummond is hilarious! If you've never read about the life and hysterics of The Pioneer Woman, you must. From cooking to homeschooling to decorating to photography, she makes me smile.
Passionate Homemaking - I always appreciate Lindsay's ideas about how to better care for my home and family.
Practical Theology for Women - This blog is excellent! Wendy applies the Truths of Scripture to every day life.
Molly Piper - This blog is written by the daughter-in-law of Dr. John Piper. She writes candidly about her life as a wife and mother and the challenges that she has faced in losing a child. Her faith, strength, and humor are very encouraging to me.
I also read many blogs that my friends write, which I enjoy immensely. As I read them, I am always thankful that I get to benefit from their wisdom, humor, and experience in real life and not only in cyberspace!
What blogs do you enjoy?
Tuesday, May 25, 2010
Mackenzie's Book List...Update: Part 2
When choosing books to read this year, I did so before we learned of our infertility and before we felt compelled and called to adopt. Since that moment, there have been a number of resources that we've accessed to learn about adoption, understanding our call as Christians to care for orphans, and what that means for our family.
Books I've read that weren't on my initial 2010 reading list:
Adopted for Life by Russell Moore
This book was instrumental in shaping our understanding of how adoption is a joy and brought us to a crucial understanding of how we were adopted as sons and daughters into the family of God when we put our faith in Jesus Christ. Absolutely phenomenal book. Read Cliff's thoughts here.
Fields of the Fatherless by Tom Davis
This book was not as moving as others I've read, but it did provide some helpful perspective on the role that others can play in supporting an adoptive family. To care for orphans doesn't necessarily mean adopting one; there are many other ways to love and care for the fatherless.
Hannah's Hope by Jennifer Saake
As I mentioned in my review, apart from Scripture, this book has been the most helpful to me in processing our infertility.
Why Was I Adopted? by Carole Livingston
This book was recommended to me by a friend of a friend who was adopted as an infant. She remembers reading this book frequently with her sister and she shared how helpful it was in helping her understand adoption. I came home after that coffee date and looked on Amazon to find the book was out of print...one new copy for over $1000 and a couple of used copies for less than $3. I'm sure you can guess which one I purchased! It arrived yesterday and this book is truly a treasure...we're sure our kids will love it!
Books I've read that weren't on my initial 2010 reading list:
Adopted for Life by Russell Moore
This book was instrumental in shaping our understanding of how adoption is a joy and brought us to a crucial understanding of how we were adopted as sons and daughters into the family of God when we put our faith in Jesus Christ. Absolutely phenomenal book. Read Cliff's thoughts here.
Fields of the Fatherless by Tom Davis
This book was not as moving as others I've read, but it did provide some helpful perspective on the role that others can play in supporting an adoptive family. To care for orphans doesn't necessarily mean adopting one; there are many other ways to love and care for the fatherless.
Hannah's Hope by Jennifer Saake
As I mentioned in my review, apart from Scripture, this book has been the most helpful to me in processing our infertility.
Why Was I Adopted? by Carole Livingston
This book was recommended to me by a friend of a friend who was adopted as an infant. She remembers reading this book frequently with her sister and she shared how helpful it was in helping her understand adoption. I came home after that coffee date and looked on Amazon to find the book was out of print...one new copy for over $1000 and a couple of used copies for less than $3. I'm sure you can guess which one I purchased! It arrived yesterday and this book is truly a treasure...we're sure our kids will love it!
Sunday, May 23, 2010
Mackenzie's Book List...Update: Part 1
Early this year, I posted about the books I planned to read in 2010, which I'd never done before. I created the list initially because I'm finding more and more that if I'm not intentional, things just won't happen. So far, I'm glad I've made the list. I've certainly added to it and read books beyond this list related to what God is teaching me at this moment, but here are my "quick takes" on the books I've read so far and what is still on my list...
Books I've read so far this year:
Death by Love: Letters from the Cross (Re:Lit) by Mark Driscoll & Gerry Breshears
Great book! I'm thankful that I get to hear from Pastor Mark each Sunday. I included more details in the review I wrote a few months ago.
Womanly Dominion: More Than A Gentle and Quiet Spirit by Mark Chanski
This book was a great reminder of the role God has called me to as a woman and as a wife and the priorities which He's outlined for me in His Word.
The Majesty of the Law by Sandra Day O'Connor
To be honest, I had a hard time with this book. I just couldn't get in to it. I am fascinated by politics, law, and government, but for some reason had a hard time with this one. Maybe it just wasn't the right time to read it...I think I'll give it another try.
Animal, Vegetable, Miracle: A Year of Food Life (P.S.) by Barbara Kingsolver
This is one of my new favorites! I did not want it to end. I adored her entire chapter on squash! Read more of my thoughts here.
Real Food: What to Eat and Why by Nina Planck
Excellent book that opened my eyes to the importance of eating food that is "real"...food our grandparents or great-grandparents would have eaten. (No more margarine for our family!)
From Clutter to Clarity: Simplifying Life from the Inside Out by Nancy Twigg
This book was a helpful reminder, but nothing too surprising. I appreciated Ms. Twigg's emphasis on starting with prayer and submission to God in all things and not simply on the behavior modification of organizing my home. Read my previous post on this book here.
Instruments in the Redeemer's Hands by Paul David Tripp
I'm reading this book now and am learning so much about how to care for, talk with, and love other people in the midst of struggles. Excited to keep reading...
Books that I haven't read yet, but will soon:
Humility: True Greatness by C. J. Mahaney & Joshua Harris
The Screwtape Letters by C. S. Lewis
The Jesus Storybook Bible: Every Story Whispers His Name by Sally Lloyd-Jones
Desiring God: Meditations of a Christian Hedonist by John Piper
In Defense of Food: An Eater's Manifesto by Michael Pollan
Books I've read so far this year:
Death by Love: Letters from the Cross (Re:Lit) by Mark Driscoll & Gerry Breshears
Great book! I'm thankful that I get to hear from Pastor Mark each Sunday. I included more details in the review I wrote a few months ago.
Womanly Dominion: More Than A Gentle and Quiet Spirit by Mark Chanski
This book was a great reminder of the role God has called me to as a woman and as a wife and the priorities which He's outlined for me in His Word.
The Majesty of the Law by Sandra Day O'Connor
To be honest, I had a hard time with this book. I just couldn't get in to it. I am fascinated by politics, law, and government, but for some reason had a hard time with this one. Maybe it just wasn't the right time to read it...I think I'll give it another try.
Animal, Vegetable, Miracle: A Year of Food Life (P.S.) by Barbara Kingsolver
This is one of my new favorites! I did not want it to end. I adored her entire chapter on squash! Read more of my thoughts here.
Real Food: What to Eat and Why by Nina Planck
Excellent book that opened my eyes to the importance of eating food that is "real"...food our grandparents or great-grandparents would have eaten. (No more margarine for our family!)
From Clutter to Clarity: Simplifying Life from the Inside Out by Nancy Twigg
This book was a helpful reminder, but nothing too surprising. I appreciated Ms. Twigg's emphasis on starting with prayer and submission to God in all things and not simply on the behavior modification of organizing my home. Read my previous post on this book here.
Instruments in the Redeemer's Hands by Paul David Tripp
I'm reading this book now and am learning so much about how to care for, talk with, and love other people in the midst of struggles. Excited to keep reading...
Books that I haven't read yet, but will soon:
Humility: True Greatness by C. J. Mahaney & Joshua Harris
The Screwtape Letters by C. S. Lewis
The Jesus Storybook Bible: Every Story Whispers His Name by Sally Lloyd-Jones
Desiring God: Meditations of a Christian Hedonist by John Piper
In Defense of Food: An Eater's Manifesto by Michael Pollan
Friday, May 21, 2010
Antioch Adoptions Banquet
On May 8th, Cliff and I had the opportunity to attend the annual Antioch Adoptions Banquet. This year was the celebration of their 10th anniversary and the fact that they've placed over 300 children into forever homes--AMAZING! It was a very special evening and we were very thankful our friends Samson and Liz joined us. Their company definitely made it even more fun!
The evening included stories of families who adopted children through Antioch Adoptions, celebrations of the blessings of adoption, many encouraging speakers, and a delicious meal. (We had a few empty seats at our table, so Samson and Cliff did a nice job of making sure none of the food went to waste.) They had also put together two slide shows, Orphan Montage and What is Adopted?, which were both informative and touching.
One of the highlights of the evening for me was seeing the adoptive families together. Not only had many of the children in attendance been placed into their families by Antioch Adoptions, but they also had a special job--they were the ushers who showed us to our table. It excited me to think that one day our children may attend and seat guests at upcoming banquets. What a joy that would be!
It was a very special evening and we were excited to support the amazing work God is doing through Antioch Adoptions.
The evening included stories of families who adopted children through Antioch Adoptions, celebrations of the blessings of adoption, many encouraging speakers, and a delicious meal. (We had a few empty seats at our table, so Samson and Cliff did a nice job of making sure none of the food went to waste.) They had also put together two slide shows, Orphan Montage and What is Adopted?, which were both informative and touching.
One of the highlights of the evening for me was seeing the adoptive families together. Not only had many of the children in attendance been placed into their families by Antioch Adoptions, but they also had a special job--they were the ushers who showed us to our table. It excited me to think that one day our children may attend and seat guests at upcoming banquets. What a joy that would be!
It was a very special evening and we were excited to support the amazing work God is doing through Antioch Adoptions.
Wednesday, May 19, 2010
Rejoice With Those Who Rejoice
A few months ago, as I was driving to work on the West Seattle Bridge, I had a crystal clear vision of Mackenzie and me standing on the stage at the Ballard campus dedicating our adopted child. What's strange is that I hadn't been thinking about adoption at all. I was just driving to work, listening to the radio, and thinking through my coming day. Then, seemingly out of nowhere, this picture popped into my mind.
Well, the floodgates immediately opened and I started bawling uncontrollably to the point that I almost had to pull over, which if you've been on the West Seattle Bridge, you know is nearly an impossible feat.
I'd never experienced anything like this before. Where had this come from and why had it come now? To be sure, adoption had been and continues to be a prominent topic of conversation for Mackenzie and me, so it was definitely on my mind. But until that point, our conversations had centered around the immediate next steps--not the hoped for eventual outcome and what that would entail.
It was clear that God was giving me a glimpse of what he had in store for us. He was showing me that being parents means more than just passing on our DNA; it means raising our children to know, honor, obey, and love Jesus. That's why we dedicate babies--not to secure their salvation (only Jesus can do that), but to promise to love and lead them in a way that points them to Jesus. In turn, our church family promises to support, encourage, and help us as we raise our children.
Mars Hill typically does baby dedications on Mother's Day and Father's Day, so two weeks ago, we watched twenty families at the Ballard campus stand before the congregation, introduce their child, read a few verses they had selected for him/her, and pray that God would help them raise their children in a way that glorifies Jesus.
It's a cute spectacle to say the least. In true Mars Hill fashion, many of the kids are decked out in Chuck Taylor's and spiky hair, but there's a fair share of pink bows and frilly dresses. Most of the kids either squirm, cry, or grab for the mic as their parents try to read their selected verses. Some of the kids even helped lead worship this year.
This year at the end of the service, Pastor Bill Clem, our campus pastor, acknowledged that for couples like us struggling with infertility or those who have experienced miscarriages, Mother's Day and Father's Day can be difficult emotionally. But he encouraged us to "Rejoice with those who rejoice," just as we would "weep with those who weep" (Romans 12:15). And as Mackenzie shared, by God's grace, we were able to do just that. We're thankful for how God has blessed so many families in our church and hopeful for the day we, too, will stand before our church and dedicate our child to the Lord.
Well, the floodgates immediately opened and I started bawling uncontrollably to the point that I almost had to pull over, which if you've been on the West Seattle Bridge, you know is nearly an impossible feat.
I'd never experienced anything like this before. Where had this come from and why had it come now? To be sure, adoption had been and continues to be a prominent topic of conversation for Mackenzie and me, so it was definitely on my mind. But until that point, our conversations had centered around the immediate next steps--not the hoped for eventual outcome and what that would entail.
It was clear that God was giving me a glimpse of what he had in store for us. He was showing me that being parents means more than just passing on our DNA; it means raising our children to know, honor, obey, and love Jesus. That's why we dedicate babies--not to secure their salvation (only Jesus can do that), but to promise to love and lead them in a way that points them to Jesus. In turn, our church family promises to support, encourage, and help us as we raise our children.
Mars Hill typically does baby dedications on Mother's Day and Father's Day, so two weeks ago, we watched twenty families at the Ballard campus stand before the congregation, introduce their child, read a few verses they had selected for him/her, and pray that God would help them raise their children in a way that glorifies Jesus.
It's a cute spectacle to say the least. In true Mars Hill fashion, many of the kids are decked out in Chuck Taylor's and spiky hair, but there's a fair share of pink bows and frilly dresses. Most of the kids either squirm, cry, or grab for the mic as their parents try to read their selected verses. Some of the kids even helped lead worship this year.
This year at the end of the service, Pastor Bill Clem, our campus pastor, acknowledged that for couples like us struggling with infertility or those who have experienced miscarriages, Mother's Day and Father's Day can be difficult emotionally. But he encouraged us to "Rejoice with those who rejoice," just as we would "weep with those who weep" (Romans 12:15). And as Mackenzie shared, by God's grace, we were able to do just that. We're thankful for how God has blessed so many families in our church and hopeful for the day we, too, will stand before our church and dedicate our child to the Lord.
Sunday, May 16, 2010
Take Time to Smell the...Lilacs?
As I was out in the yard today, I noticed how many of our plants are blooming and how big everything is getting! I think this year I am most excited by our four year old lilac bushes that are blooming for the first time.
It makes me think about what our yard looked like when we bought our home four years ago--a 7,000 square foot lot with three trees and nothing else. It has been a lot of work and since landscaping can be quite costly, we've been diligent in finding free plants on Craigslist and scrounging from friends and neighbors.
As it all finally starts to come together, I will definitely admit that watching these plants grow from year to year is rewarding. I snapped a few photos of my favorites to share.
It makes me think about what our yard looked like when we bought our home four years ago--a 7,000 square foot lot with three trees and nothing else. It has been a lot of work and since landscaping can be quite costly, we've been diligent in finding free plants on Craigslist and scrounging from friends and neighbors.
As it all finally starts to come together, I will definitely admit that watching these plants grow from year to year is rewarding. I snapped a few photos of my favorites to share.
Friday, May 14, 2010
Wednesday, May 12, 2010
A Walk in Our Garden
potato
radish
spinach
Our garden is doing fairly well at this point. We've planted most of the seeds and many are beginning to sprout and show signs of the bounty yet to come. I was thrilled to harvest one of our radishes on Saturday! It was deliciously peppery and a beautiful, pinkish red. I look forward to having more homegrown veggies on my salads in the coming weeks and months.
How is your garden growing?
Tuesday, May 11, 2010
Language Land Mines
I've often felt that political correctness is politeness run amok--especially since politically correct terms seem to change on a daily basis. I don't enjoy the feeling of cautiously tip-toeing through conversations afraid to step on language land mines.
But being a recovering English geek, I am aware of what people say, how they say it, and how both effect the people to whom they're saying it. I want my speech to be edifying, not offensive (Ephesians 4:29).
And I've become even more aware of this as Mackenzie and I have shared our struggles with infertility and our pursuit of adoption. There's an element of vulnerability involved in both cases, and what people say and how they say it can have a significant impact.
With infertility, it's a matter of people wanting to ask questions and offer encouragement, but not really knowing how to do either without prying or somehow offending us. In terms of prying, we generally assure people that we're open to answer any questions and to share as many or as few details as they're comfortable with.
The encouragement piece is a little trickier. In most cases, the people offering encouragement are ones we love and who love us; consequently, they don't like seeing us hurting and want to assure us that everything will work out. This last part is true, but how everything will work out might be different than they or we think. I'm hesitant to share specific examples of the things people have said because I know they meant well, but I do want to reiterate that our hope is in Jesus and what he's done for us on the cross (namely, saving us from our sins and restoring our relationship with God the Father), not our ability to get pregnant.
What Mackenzie and I are currently working through is the language we'll use if/when we adopt. Russell Moore's book, Adopted For Life, (one that we both highly recommend) has been greatly helpful in this. He and his wife adopted two boys from Russia who were born three weeks apart, but not from the same biological parents. Moore explains in chapter two that one of the most common questions people asked him and his wife was "Are they brothers?" And each time someone asked them, he would emphatically reply, "Yes, they are."
Now to be sure, he knew what they meant. He knew it was a well intended question to learn more about the boys and their origins. But more importantly, he knew how essential it was for the boys to know that through adoption, they were in fact brothers--not to mention his sons.
That's one of the most beautiful things about adoption. People with no natural, genetic relationship are transformed into a family. And what's better is that this is a picture of our renewed relationship with God through his Son, Jesus. The Apostle Paul uses the image of adoption to explain the Gospel in several places: Ephesians 1:3-14, Galatians 4:3-7, and Romans 8:12-17.
In another chapter Moore stresses that "adopted" is a past-tense verb, not an adjective. He explains that "the term 'adopted kid' assumes an ongoing difference, something that differentiates him from a 'regular kid.'" But adoption is an act that happened in the past; it doesn't define a child anymore than being born premature makes a child the "premature kid" (to use another one of Moore's examples). Adoption is a part of their story, not their identity.
I don't share all of this with you so you'll watch what you say when you're around us, but to share with you what we've learned these past few months--how infertility and adoption are far different from what we could have ever imagined (and we're just getting started with the latter). Neither fit well into the plan we had for our family. But we've started to realize that this isn't Plan B; this is what God intended for us all along. And throughout this experience, we expect to learn things about him and ourselves that we never would have otherwise.
But being a recovering English geek, I am aware of what people say, how they say it, and how both effect the people to whom they're saying it. I want my speech to be edifying, not offensive (Ephesians 4:29).
And I've become even more aware of this as Mackenzie and I have shared our struggles with infertility and our pursuit of adoption. There's an element of vulnerability involved in both cases, and what people say and how they say it can have a significant impact.
With infertility, it's a matter of people wanting to ask questions and offer encouragement, but not really knowing how to do either without prying or somehow offending us. In terms of prying, we generally assure people that we're open to answer any questions and to share as many or as few details as they're comfortable with.
The encouragement piece is a little trickier. In most cases, the people offering encouragement are ones we love and who love us; consequently, they don't like seeing us hurting and want to assure us that everything will work out. This last part is true, but how everything will work out might be different than they or we think. I'm hesitant to share specific examples of the things people have said because I know they meant well, but I do want to reiterate that our hope is in Jesus and what he's done for us on the cross (namely, saving us from our sins and restoring our relationship with God the Father), not our ability to get pregnant.
What Mackenzie and I are currently working through is the language we'll use if/when we adopt. Russell Moore's book, Adopted For Life, (one that we both highly recommend) has been greatly helpful in this. He and his wife adopted two boys from Russia who were born three weeks apart, but not from the same biological parents. Moore explains in chapter two that one of the most common questions people asked him and his wife was "Are they brothers?" And each time someone asked them, he would emphatically reply, "Yes, they are."Now to be sure, he knew what they meant. He knew it was a well intended question to learn more about the boys and their origins. But more importantly, he knew how essential it was for the boys to know that through adoption, they were in fact brothers--not to mention his sons.
That's one of the most beautiful things about adoption. People with no natural, genetic relationship are transformed into a family. And what's better is that this is a picture of our renewed relationship with God through his Son, Jesus. The Apostle Paul uses the image of adoption to explain the Gospel in several places: Ephesians 1:3-14, Galatians 4:3-7, and Romans 8:12-17.
In another chapter Moore stresses that "adopted" is a past-tense verb, not an adjective. He explains that "the term 'adopted kid' assumes an ongoing difference, something that differentiates him from a 'regular kid.'" But adoption is an act that happened in the past; it doesn't define a child anymore than being born premature makes a child the "premature kid" (to use another one of Moore's examples). Adoption is a part of their story, not their identity.
I don't share all of this with you so you'll watch what you say when you're around us, but to share with you what we've learned these past few months--how infertility and adoption are far different from what we could have ever imagined (and we're just getting started with the latter). Neither fit well into the plan we had for our family. But we've started to realize that this isn't Plan B; this is what God intended for us all along. And throughout this experience, we expect to learn things about him and ourselves that we never would have otherwise.
Sunday, May 09, 2010
Happy Mother's Day!
I appreciate Mother's Day because it gives me a specific day during the year to thank my mom and mother-in-law for being two women who I deeply love, respect, and admire. I'm also incredibly thankful for my friends who are moms, as they allow me into their lives and the lives of their precious children to learn from them, laugh with them, and pray for them.
Thank you for being such excellent examples to me.
Saturday, May 08, 2010
The Difficulty of Mother's Day
Last year was the first Mother's Day in my life where I had a desire to be a mom, was actively trying to become a mom, yet was not a mom. It was the first Mother's Day where I felt an ache for a child.
This year marks the second such Mother's Day. I still have a deep desire to be a mom, which I know comes from the Lord, but much is different this year.
This year marks the second such Mother's Day. I still have a deep desire to be a mom, which I know comes from the Lord, but much is different this year.
- This year I know that the road to motherhood will look different for me than I once thought.
- This year my heart grieves for other women who desire to be mom's, yet aren't.
- This year I have a deeper understanding of God's plan for my life and the peace that can be found in trusting that His plan is far greater than my own.
- This Mother's Day we feel a profound call to adopt children, and I am thankful for the deep sense of direction that provides.
I have a friend who shared with me early in our struggle with infertility that it is possible to feel two emotions at one time: to rejoice with others, but still feel a longing within yourself. This is where I am this Mother's Day--rejoicing in the gift of motherhood, thankful for my mom and friends who are moms, sad that we are not yet parents, but praying that God would bless us with a child according to His perfect plan.
Jeremiah 29:11 - "For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future."
Thursday, May 06, 2010
Next Steps in the Adoption Process
Many of you have asked, "So now what?!?!" in reference to the next steps in our journey toward adoption. To summarize, there are many and they could take a long time.
We submitted our paperwork, and are now waiting for a phone call to set up interviews with Antioch Adoptions. If approved, we would then participate in PRIDE (Parents' Resources for Information Development Education) trainings through the state, complete a home study, and then wait for the child God has planned for our family. The entire process can go quickly (nine months) or can go more slowly (years).
For those of you that know Cliff and me well, the waiting game is not our strength. Nothing about this process is easy, expected, or accommodating to a couple of Type A planners like we are.
We are certainly learning what it looks like to submit to God's timing and not our own and to wait patiently. We would truly appreciate your prayers as we embark upon the very beginning of this huge and complex process.
We submitted our paperwork, and are now waiting for a phone call to set up interviews with Antioch Adoptions. If approved, we would then participate in PRIDE (Parents' Resources for Information Development Education) trainings through the state, complete a home study, and then wait for the child God has planned for our family. The entire process can go quickly (nine months) or can go more slowly (years).
For those of you that know Cliff and me well, the waiting game is not our strength. Nothing about this process is easy, expected, or accommodating to a couple of Type A planners like we are.
We are certainly learning what it looks like to submit to God's timing and not our own and to wait patiently. We would truly appreciate your prayers as we embark upon the very beginning of this huge and complex process.
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